Language is power. I supported this point of view in my previous article, but unfortunately power is associated with masculinity; too often for the times we are living in. The different thing about language is that it has a special system of measuring strength.
A few days ago, people from all over the world celebrated love and with this occasion thousands of messages were sent, millions of dreams were whispered, billions of feelings were brought to light, screamed from the top of the lungs in a moment of courage – countless words seemed to find a purpose. Valentine’s Day is the event we’re talking about, and even if identifying the apotheosis of love with this day is not one of the points to be debated at the moment, it is the reason people pay by far more attention to the things they say and the way they say it that counts.
There is no doubt that on days like this people are waiting for words to be dedicated to them. It is the various forms language can take to easily reach our hearts, shake our emotions that makes us link what we hear or read to the idea of the truth, sometimes unpolished feeling. From an infinite number of cases and excluding the diabetic romance and overly prepared dishonest speeches, there are two questions strongly related to the things mentioned.
I repeat myself one more time: language is power. Now we all know love is sensitivity, emotion and carefulness. In contrast, these are often believed to be symbols of weakness. Drawing a wrong picture of society, this tends to separate women from men and vice versa. These coordinates are intercepted by reality just when we realize someone sharing their love for and with us has a huge impact on us and therefore possesses an incredible amount of power. One should use this self-expression tool to pursue their happiness, because despite the fact that women are usually more attracted and attached to exteriorizing their feelings, it doesn’t mean the same scenario would affect men’s integrity by covering them with the aureole of a bad famed sensitivity. Love is not a feminine thing, as power is not masculine. On the other hand, women compensate with the emotional power they have, proving the couple’s need of strong unity. A woman emanates power even through her opened pores when she brings feelings into discussion and a man should use the strength in his deep voice to admit that he cares. We fight for equality, but it doesn’t depend only on our gender how we use language, it depends on our own unique identity how we give life to words so they end up loyally representing us.
Complementary, while in appearance opposite stands the relationship between our inner sentimental thoughts and our lack of words. There are multiple theories and studies that support the impossibility of spoken or written language to embody our true feelings. I find the idea of a shifting cycle on the graph of accuracy realistic because even though having a clear statement of the other’s love gives us a sense of accomplishment, confidence and safety, I still believe there is more behind love than breaking the limits of speech. Sometimes chemistry is felt before understanding and in those cases neither introduction, body or conclusion are needed because speechless love is not disabled, but profound. Analyzing the data, it becomes clear that this example is a language of its own, a language that turns the contact and all the other elements of a communication scheme into the unbreakable connection between lovers.
It may take holidays like Valentine’s Day for us to reflect on our feelings and decide how to make love palpable, but it is the unconsciousness that makes us choose how to express ourselves; choose our language. Love should always be based on trust and whenever one needs to be reassured of its undeniable truth, regardless if it is silence or words, as long as it’s coming from our hearts it will find its way to our special person.
Written by Raluca Ciubotariu
Edited by Hannah Cook and Peter S. Mangi